Resolutions Anyone?
Jan 4 2009

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Last year I made New Year resolutions despite not normally liking to do so.  I even did a blog post called One Entrepreneur’s 2008 Goals.  And guess what? Some of them came true and some of them didn’t.  This year I’m not making any resolutions.  I’m going to try to go more with the flow.  Now that doesn’t mean I don’t have things I’d like to accomplish but I’m not going to make them goals.

Interestingly, I achieved all of my 2008 personal goals.  I lost 5 lbs (actually I lost more like 8).  I signed up for and took yoga as consistently as is possible with two kids and two jobs.  The yoga helped me lose 5 lbs, the other 3 I lost due to stress and an ongoing existential crisis.  I’m one of those people who doesn’t eat much and fidgets a lot when I get stressed.  I know some people hate me for it, but let me tell you the elevated crazy brain activity more than overrides the weight loss benefit.   I mean I don’t get as bad as seeing dead people, but I start saying and doing things that don’t make sense (at least to me), and I start making wild interpretations of other people’s actions (and non-actions) and words that probably don’t make sense but might and if they actually meant what I thought they meant, my world would be turned upside down.  Yeah, don’t even try to understand that last sentence.

I even laughed more and that’s because my son is a budding comedian, and I work with some funny people at my day job.  The only personal goal that I can’t say with 100% certainty I made significant progress in was “be less concerned with what other people think.”  I made some progress, but the trauma of “what will they think of me if I wear a purple peacock hat to a lunch meeting?” still plagues me.  As I’ve gotten older, I’ve cared less but I’m waiting for that day I can walk into a room and say whatever is on my mind (well not whatever because it would shock the innocent) and not give a flying flip if people think I’m nuts, a crazy entrepreneur, or a hysterical brown woman because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that what I’m saying is actually wise, intelligible, actionable, and worthy to be said.

I really only knocked out of the park one of my Babble Soft business goals and that was to “find great people to help make it happen.”  And that happened when Nicole Johnson joined me as VP of Product Development back in October.  We are slowly but surely making things happen and it’s so amazing to have someone as great as she is along for the ride.  We don’t know how it will all turn out yet given what’s going on in the world, but I feel honored to be working with such a talented, personable individual, who can fully relate to my life situation of a day job and two little kids!

The other business goals were thwarted by: the economy, my husband leaving his job to consult and start an amazing dual language immersion school called The Magellan School (i.e., hence the day job – health care benefits are very important when you have kids), having to unexpectedly pay a significant portion of my father-in-law’s triple bypass surgery expenses (yes, he was not insured), my mid-life crisis, and a random butterfly flapping its wings in China.

But you know what? Despite not making most of my business goals, life is great.  All my close family and friends are healthy.  My kids laugh and smile every day which makes me happy.  I enjoy my day job because although I’m underpaid (working on changing that slightly), it’s probably the best place I can be to help build the Austin entrepreneurial community and ride out this economic downturn.  Plus, I really like the people I work with.  I’m a huge believer in fostering an amazing work culture and a positive work environment, and we currently have that at the Austin Technology Incubator (ATI) and I have that with Nicole at Babble Soft.  So yes, overall my life is pretty darned good.

So my non-resolutions for 2009 are to sing more, laugh more, write more, make more funny faces at my kids, be less repressed, empower people, unashamedly love people, continue to take yoga, find a purple hat (any suggestions?), make some life changing decisions (I already got my hair cut short), and move the ball forward one day at a time on Babble Soft and at ATI.

So no resolutions for me, but I do like to get shit done and I’m hoping our brand new President of the United States feels the same, and I think he does! 

Oh, did I mention I plan to curse more too!  For most of my adult and teenage life many of my friends (most of them guys) have tried to get me to curse more and I saw no need for it.  Their jaws would drop on the rare instances I would curse, so I’ll see if I can work in more curse words into my daily (or weekly) discourse (mostly off the blog because I have a hard time writing curse words).  It might be awkward at first, but I’ll suck it up and overcome the awkwardness just like Dooce and The Bloggess have been able to.  They are some of the top cursing mommy bloggers on the Internet today and I cry laughing (or is that laugh crying?) whenever I read their posts.   I mean go read: This is one of those posts about how you can make money off your blog but instead of money you get a coupon for a burrito and tell me you don’t start laughing your ass off.  I’ll just have to remember not to curse in front of the kids…  Sorry mom!

How’s that for some non-Resolutions?!!

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10 Comments on “Resolutions Anyone?”

  1. 1 Todd Jordan - tojosan said at 9:10 AM on January 4th, 2009:

    I’ll not be following your cursing goal. Ha.

    Cheers to your success to far. You’re dedicated and hard working, and you know how to laugh. A winner for sure.
    Can’t wait to see how 2009 goes for you.

  2. 2 nipsad said at 10:36 AM on January 4th, 2009:

    Goals are more important than you realize. Not reaching a goal isn’t a big deal. Set goals, writing them down, and if can can review them regularly is a big deal. You can accomplish some pretty amazing stuff. I am not an expert, but write down a few things and check in next year. Good luck!!!

    nipsads last blog post..I Will Balance My Life With Love!

  3. 3 Aruni said at 3:49 PM on January 4th, 2009:

    @Tojosan – don’t worry, I have a hard time cursing so if I don’t meet that goal, I won’t be disappointed in myself. :-)

    @nipsad – Thanks for stopping by! I think I just wrote some kinda goals/intentions down but this year I’m trying not to be so hard on myself and make them so defined in how they should be met.

  4. 4 Erin Defosse said at 8:29 AM on January 5th, 2009:

    I personally like the “curse” and “unashamedly love people” non-resolution resolutions working together. Yelling and cursing is sometimes a good venting mechanism provided that it is kept in check and you know when it is appropriate to do so. I think you can do this and still love unashamedly and have people love you back.

  5. 5 Nicole said at 9:54 AM on January 5th, 2009:

    I don’t like resolutions, either. I do have goals, but don’t like to tie them to the New Year “thing”, I guess. It’s sorta the same reason I don’t “go on a diet”, but “change my lifestyle eating choices”. :D Diet and resolutions imply temporary in my head, so that’s why I don’t do them.

    I look forward to helping you achieve your Babble Soft goals this year and good luck with your personal goals! I am in awe that you find time for Yoga! I need to find that time, too! That might be one of my non-resolutions, too, though I’d probably hit the treadmill. ;)

    Great post, as usual! Loved the burrito post on The Bloggess, too! Thanks for the laugh!

    Nicoles last blog post..Take 5 Minutes for You this Holiday Season!

  6. 6 Aruni said at 10:32 PM on January 5th, 2009:

    @Erin – I guess I’ll have to find a way to yell and curse around the house when the kids aren’t here…not sure when that would be. :-)

    @Nicole – I have a treadmill too that I try to get on but have a hard time even though it’s right here! I look forward to working with you too!

  7. 7 Erin Defosse said at 7:05 PM on January 9th, 2009:

    You mean when I’m here but the kids aren’t (9-5 workdays)? ;-D

  8. 8 Julie Fergerson said at 3:33 PM on January 15th, 2009:

    If I can find a purple peacock hat (not sure exactly what that is, but I plan to Google it) I am going to wear it when we go to lunch — and then buy you some wine so you will wear it too.

    Worrying about what people think isn’t necessarily a bad think – I don’t worry, which is why I am so weird :)

  9. 9 Aruni said at 8:40 PM on January 17th, 2009:

    I look forward to meeting for lunch and wearing the purple peacock hat you showed me online! :-)

  10. 10 Connecting The Dots | entrepreMusings said at 5:59 PM on May 21st, 2009:

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